I used to think that balance was what I craved and needed in my life. For years, I would make lists of things in each category of my life that I wanted to work on and try to incorporate these things daily so my life would have balance. Then, I had a conversation with a business entrepreneur who was making six figures. She was curious why my business had not taken off. I told her I was having a hard time finding balance with everything in my life. What she said to me changed my perspective to living an unbalanced life.
Living Unbalanced Helps You Succeed
My friend and mentor told me that balance is a myth. The people that really succeed at things in life do not have balance. She said sometimes she spends 40 hours a week on her business. Other weeks, she may only spend 20 hours. She said living unbalanced was how she accomplished success in almost every area of her life, including family, spiritual development, and financial success. Focusing was what gave her the edge. Focusing was how she made six figures a year while being a work at home mom.
Living Unbalanced Means Focusing on Just a Few Things with Intensity
Fast forward years later, and I became a mom. I realized after my son was born that if I didn’t have balance before he was born, I surely wasn’t going to have it now. Balance is just that. You are standing on a beam, trying to balance and not fall. Unbalanced is just diving off the beam towards what you want most and focusing on just those things. For me, the first year of my son’s life was all about learning to be a mom and getting sleep. My focus quickly changed to “what is most important to me right now?” This meant I didn’t spend much time with friends, my house was not clean for the most part, I may have not been a gourmet genius in the kitchen, and I didn’t spend hours working on my business. It meant I focused on just my son and becoming the best mom I could be.
Living an Unbalanced Life Moves the Needle
The greatest thing about living unbalanced is you actually see the needle move in your life. You see big things happen because you choose to focus on a few things, instead of twenty things. In the first year of my son’s life, I quit my full time job, which was very stressful and not healthy for me. I learned that being a stay at home mom is harder than working, but still very rewarding. My husband and I learned how to live on one income (not an easy feat). I quit my caffeine addiction with coffee. I went from drinking 6-8 cups of caffeinated coffee a day to one cup of decaf every day. Sometimes I don’t even drink that. I have mastered bed time, nap time, and play time with my son, and I am happy I get to see him grow and change every day. When I look back, I see that I have accomplished huge things I NEVER thought I could do a year ago, all because I chose to focus on being a mom and getting sleep.
Living an Unbalanced Life to Pay Off Debt
Just like with learning to be a mom, paying off debt is a huge undertaking. This is why Dave Ramsey says in order to pay off debt, you have to have focused intensity. You have to be gazelle intense. This is done by focusing on your smallest debt, getting it paid, and moving on to the next smallest debt. You then focus on living within your means on a budget. You have to focus on getting free. Living unbalanced is how you accomplish this.
Living an unbalanced life has allowed me to realize that I can’t be great at everything, but I can focus and master a few things at a time. It has allowed me to realize that life is not about being the perfect woman. It is about choosing what is most important to you and going after that with tenacity. Then, you will experience the big wins in your life that you really want to see.